With love – from me to u.

On valentines day , this is from me to u and myself.

No dont worry i am not spamming u with same old/new  tricks/ideas as to how to make your valentine feel special. This is about how u can make everyday a valentines day for yourself.

My philosophy of love is like totally twisted.  Love yourself before u love others. No matter what,  u have to be with u because thats what life is about . Yes i am a spiritual and philosophical person though in the most strangest ways.

As far as i can remember my birthday gifts were always books from Cinderella and  puss in boots when i was 3 to Manorama series when i was 15 ( but i couldnt get past ten pages of this book but thats a secret between us).

I was introduced to lot of positive books which  did have a great impact on me though not in the ways it was intended to.

I am no motivational speaker nor a preacher but wanted to share what i read and remember.

Ya and i confess i needed a reinforcement too.

Hence i share my philosophy with u , and few i am yet to master.

1.Love yourself.

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Yes the most. That doesnt by anyway mean u dont love  or care less for others.When u dont see urself deserving how do u expect others to.It helps you give more .Get to know urself, accept whatever u are. Stop wanting to be others and wanted by others.

All of us have imperfections and thats what makes us, us.When u are looking up to someone , someone near u will be looking up at u .So dont let them down.

Stand up and do your best.

2. Be selfish.

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U heard me right. Ask for what u want. Discuss . No one has the superpowers to read your mind.

Sometimes there are situations where i am  not sure of what i want. i just think about the pros and cons , sometimes maybe even write it down . It doesnt matter which side is long because each have a different weightage. Then i decide on one thing and nearly always i never repent or look back.

Sometimes there are no right / wrong decisions they are just your choice.

Because each of us have a different bundle of problems to deal with.But believe me all of them have a bundle though some may hide it behind the closed doors.

3.Be open minded.

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Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives will not have a title until  much later.

Never draw boundaries. Destiny works in mysterious ways .U never  know in what from opportunity knocks your door.Sometimes we are looking for ice and when we find water , we dont realize we are searching for the same but in a different form ( i know thats a weird example, right now not able to come up with a better one).

Not all your actions need to give you something back/be productive. Just the sheer joy u get out of it will be soul satisfying.

4.Find a hobby

Anything from travelling to yoga,meditation to cooking or even just decluttering  and rearranging your house.Find something to explore. It may change with time but just do it as long as it interests u.Push yourself, all u need to is just find some time for yourself.

Do what u  wanted to since long time and kept postponing. By the age of 40/45  i am sure all of us have a well planned post retirement life. Because whatever is on the bucket list, we convince ourselves that we will do it later. But how sure are we that its going to happen.So let it happen today.

5.Learn to say NO

I know i dont qualify to right this (because i can never say one ). But i am .Sometimes u need to just say it- no matter who is at the other end. And not just say no but also without explanation. But ofcourse we need to make clear, we are always there to help them in real need , maybe even before they ask.

Ok ok ok got it..i still have along list but I am leaving it here.. But do give a thought about this.

But dont tell your spouse that u love yourself the most , or else be ready to face the consequences.

Oh my spouse .. Dont worry .. He already knows that by now.

 

PS: The  above heartwala zentangle was done by me, hope u liked it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The pink ribbon-we can do much more than we think

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“Mamma I love you .. I care for u ” this was what my 5 year old told me giving this as soon as he was back from school.He did not know the reason behind this small gift but i knew he meant it and reminded me that i need to take care of myself .

 

 

 

The pink ribbon worn in the month of October as a part of breast cancer awareness month in support of  women with breast cancer.

Y wait till October to become aware .Let us do it right now.

Breast cancer is the most common cancer among women world wide.But how much do we know about it ??. There is still so much need and scope for awareness.We do not take it seriously in the subcontinent unless we know someone who is suffering from cancer or is on treatment .

But before u read ahead please remember that when u find a breast lump , it does not always mean cancer, there are many other causes for a lump in breast which are more common than carcinoma. So do not panic. All u have to do is take immediate consultation with your doctor- surgeon or your gynecologist who will guide you further regarding what tests you may require based on your individual condition.

So here i am sharing  some things about breast carcinoma  which may help us fight it together.

Breast cancer is treatable when detected early. So awareness is a crucial part.

The first step is self breast examination- that is examining your own breasts to look for any lumps or signs of carcinoma.

  • All women above the age of 20  should be practicing this self breast examination.
  • Frequency? maybe once a month preferably the days just after your monthly menstruation/ periods is complete.

Here are simple instructions how it can be done.

  1. Begin by looking at both breasts in mirror with hands on hips and shoulders straight. Look for their usual shape , size. Any nipple or skin changes.
  2. Now do the same with your arms raised above your head. Also look for any nipple discharge.
  3. Now feel the breasts while lying down.Use the tips of your fingers and keep them together. Use right hand for left breast and vice versa.You can use either circular motion or above downwards and side to side motion to cover the entire breast (from collarbone to top of your abdomen, from armpit to cleavage).
  4. Now repeat the same  either in sitting/standing position.

U can follow the link here for picture illustration of self breast examination

Next is screening,

Let me first introduce you to term screening . Screening is the medical term used when we look for a disease before it causes any symptoms or signs.So in this context we are looking for breast carcinoma in earlier stage even before it causes any symptoms or signs.

The tool used for breast carcinoma is called mammography. It is something similar (but not same) to radiograph/ x-ray of the breasts. It is started at the age of 40-45 years and then repeated every year. This applies to individuals with no family history of breast cancer /any other risk factors. If you have a known risk factor like anyone in the family has had carcinoma of breast  or any radiotherapy to chest due to some other reasons then you may have to start screening at an earlier age.

Please discuss with your doctor when u have decided to opt for screening as they may be able to guide and suggest to you  the nearest appropriate center and further details. 

Once screening mammography is done , if the report is normal, u should be returning back for your screening next year with self breast examination in the between time.

If the mammogram shows any suspicious lesion, then your doctor will be guiding you to take further tests accordingly to confirm the lesion.

Red flags : ( needs immediate attention)

  1. nipple retraction , new signs of inversion (pushed inwards instead of pointing out).
  2. breast lump with or without pain.
  3. any type of discharge from nipple.
  4. skin redness, soreness or rash

Any of the above signs, needs earliest consultation with the concerned doctor.

MYTH FACT
Breast cancer occurs in elderly Breast cancer can occur at any age
Breast cancer occurs only in females Very rarely can occur in males
Breast cancer cannot be treated Can be treated if detected early

Is it not easy?

 

How can we contribute. Again simple.

Practice self breast examination.

Share the information with ladies around u and spread the awareness. Somewhere someday someone may be benefited. You never know.

 

 

The all new me..

Make no mistake about it.. Enlightenment is a destructive process.. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier..It is the crumbling away of untruth..It is seeing through the facade of pretense..It is the complete eradication of things we imagined to be true..by Adyashanthi..

Sometimes it just takes a moment to realise the truth and sometimes decades of experiences, incidents  and opportunities.

Though i am the same basic soul, i have evolved into a different person (read it as better person though  i don’t expect everyone to agree) .

It all started with my journey to Singapore and then the trip to London reinforced it. yes i love exploring cities, travel around the world, learn new things.

And then we moved to Dubai, where i started exploring myself to realise i had protocolled myself wrongly.

I started my culinary journey around 6 months ago. Learning, cooking , experimenting new flavours and cuisines. Ya previously i did  cook ,to fill the tummies but this was different.I had my own doubts about the sustainability but it still is continuing. I do instagram my culinary journey in the account name  home_makers_ring. So please do follow me if it interests u and keep me motivated. I have long way to go before i do food blogging/ do my own recipes. 

And now here i am blogging . Hope to keep up the project and see where it takes me.

U don’t have to see the whole staircase to take the first step , because every step in right direction counts.

What can u expect from my blog?

Though i suppose its too early for me to pinpoint. I would rather say few posts will definitely be about Dubai ( read it as mydubai) , kids , health , food or any other random subject that interests me.Hope you will follow my blog and keep me going.